The truth will set you free, but first it will tend to make you miserable.
That was a giant chunk of humility Tufty. I wondered if I was a little too direct, but this was a realisation that I also had to come to. I am the alcholic here, I am the one with the problem. It is not up to anyone else to change to suit me. It's my problem.
Once I could accept that, I was well on my way to a solution. I trust you will be too.