The best advice I got was to not enter into a relationship until I felt healthy enough to be a supportive partner.
I guess the biggest thing for me is not trying to look outside of myself for strength and safety after the booze is gone. I tried to use relationships to stop the fear in the same manner I used booze to stop the fear. Feeling scared and alone are the biggest triggers for me and I have to learn to be ok with the fear and accept it because drinking just ruins all my good qualities.
Believe in yourself!