MizFormaldehyde,
"....I was little confused why it also included the 12 steps which is a part of her book as well....."
The 12 Steps of Nar-Anon differ from the 12 Steps of Narcotics Anonymous by only 3 words, two words in Step 1 and 1 in Step 12; Steps 2 through 11 are identical.
Step 1, Nar-Anon: We admitted we were powerless over the addict - that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 1, NA: We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.
Step 12, Nar-Anon: Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Step 12, NA: Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The reasons can be simplified to say that, at least in the beginning of your journey, you are just as addicted to your addict as your addict is to their drug of choice and until YOU can recover from your addiction; you will never find inner peace and serenity. You probably call your attempts to "fix" them, love.
If you were not addicted to your addict, chances are that you would not be on a site such as this or seeking outside support from other groups; it is possible, but not likely.
A very wise and insightful lady before me once posted this here:
"Love cannot save our addicted loved ones, if it could, not a one of us would be here." Truer words were never written.
Keep coming back,
Jim