Hey Ladyblue
I realized this tendency of mine years ago...to project. I don't have this issue as much as I did when I was younger, but I would often butt heads at work with the women that were most like me. Threatened would be the word. Not just of their positive qualities, but the mirror they provided that would reflect my own negative tendencies.
AA has a lot of good qualities, and a lot of not so good qualities. I focus on what helps me and what I need, try to stay open minded (because I have learned there is huge difference between what I need and what I want) and listen.