HI beachbum (love your name)
welcome here to the alanon boards!
My son was diagnosed with a duo diagnosis
of alcohol and BP and mild schiz.
and having an alcoholic daughter as well
it was a tough year believe me.
I am slowly coming to terms with the fact
that I am not only powerless over alcohol
but the mental part , if my son is not coming
to terms with his illness and not taking any
meds which he is not, then I can do nothing to
change him into seeing things my way. He must
work that out with his higher power.(he is 32)
I'd been having some real struggles trying to
apply this with step 1 : we admited we were
powerless over alcohol that our lives had become
unmanageable.
but, i would say(to myself & God) this is also a mental problem
shouldnt i be trying to do something ! what i was doing was
starting to get myself sick again. Beachbum, I have to
believe that admitting I am powerless is not just over alcohol
but anything I cannot control !
You must continue with your life, have fun, think of yourself,
I would do anything if it would of helped my grown children
but nothing i did worked, not yelling, crying,anger,all I
did was find myself in a fog , no way out, without my
family the way things used to be, I thought all was lost.
But I am finding out all I did was get in the way for their own
recovery.
I hope this message was a help to you. Its darn hard to let
go and let God, and somedays you must let go again and again
but as I see this program of recovery work, there is a freedom
that comes in its place.
God Bless you , keep coming back
love liddy