Thank you all for the advice and encouragement! It helps to hear it from people who know.
Thank you for saying that it doesn't need to be figured out right now.
Thank you for saying that going on a break won't derail his recovery if he's serious.
As empathetic people we tend to take on responsibilities that aren't ours. It's hard to separate our needs from others'. So we need to remind each other of that. Thank you.
The separation during the blackout period has been good actually. It's lonely and I often wonder what he's up to, how he's feeling. But then I remember that I need to turn those thoughts inwards to myself. Up and down, up and down.
Again, thank you friends!
I'm glad this site and forum exists!