Originally Posted by
Ruby2 
Hi, and congrats on Day 3.
That's where the co-dependence comes in because I want to fix, manage and control what he's doing. I've had to work on only taking care of my own stuff. It's hard, but doable and I wish you well.
Thanks for the well wishes and for sharing. I also want to fix, manage, and control what he's doing. It's hard because I worry so much about him. His mom and I are very close and find ourselves discussing his well being and potential recovery regularly. It is causing problems because my boyfriend doesn't like that. The reason I talk with her is because she is the only one that knows what I go through and I don't want to talk about this stuff with my friends. It's too private. We are support to one another. Yesterday, we talked for two hours. I want to limit the discussing because it is hurtful to my boyfriend. It comes from a place of caring but I understand why he is hurt by it.