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an observation from my own experience: it was difficult for me to allow myself to be seen in incoherence. it was also scary.
but whenever i did (for years on my old Lifering forum), the payoff was huge. i was accepted in my incoherence, and some could 'get' what i was incoherent about, and questions back and forth and sharing about struggles for clarity, or contradictions between experience and beliefs, or anything that i couldn't make sense of for myself about myself....letting others in on my incoherence was key.
key to being open, key to getting more honest, key to starting to hear other views, key to maybe maybe letting go just a bit of my pride in my certainty about what made sense..
anyway, what i'm saying is: i hope you feel safe to not need to come up with something coherent if where you're at is incoherence. it's not a bad place to be; it just feels that way
