It's hard, isn't it..... to feel attracted to someone... to care for them.... to really, truly want to help them.... but to know in your heart that you cannot. It's hard to admit to ourselves when we have to let go.
I don't think any of us can give you your answer. You need to find it within yourself. But your words suggest to me that you already know.
I can say a couple things that I think are relevant and which I believe from my own experience;
Nobody who is caught in the throes of active addiction is in any position to be a healthy member of a meaningful relationship.
We can only care for, change, or take responsibility for ourselves, when it comes right down to it.
I feel for ya.
