getright, if it's one thing that moves me to post on this forum, it's this sort of thread.
I'm the child of an alcoholic and an alcoholic myself.
My dad didn't sober up until I was a grown woman and we had stopped talking by then. He reached out and we mended things. It sure took a lot of effort, but well, we worked it out. He sobered up and stayed sober - which was crucial, otherwise we wouldn't have worked it out.
Here's the thing. He was always my dad and I always loved him. I spent my entire childhood praying for him to stop drinking. If he had stopped drinking anywhere along the way I was growing up, it would have given me back my dad a lot earlier and saved one family a lot of pain.
Every day you stay sober is a day closer to getting your family back.