fantail

Those three will make you miserable. You're right to put your focus there. And as you work on those things, I think you'll find that the other stuff sorts itself out. The best way to attract a good partner is to make yourself into a good one yourself. Also I think you're right on track when you say that you shouldn't be pursuing people you have to be drunk to talk to. Being ourselves means casting a smaller net, but when you do find someone the results are so much better that way. Good luck, glad you're working through this stuff and getting alcohol out of your life!