wow. You are really spinning.
The thing with the house...focus on that. Find a way to pay your bills, whether it's taking a roommate or refinancing or getting a second job, or cutting out unnecessary expenses.
Relying on a newly recovering alcoholic for money is just adding to the misery. He's going to be all over the place, and you're already all over the place yourself.
Focus on keeping a roof over your own head without help from him.