Hey there
Some of us struggle to get clean and its heartwrenching for the addict and equally so for family
Myself relapsed after 7 years sober and god it's been a tough road back
The one year rule is a good one
I hope that the right answers come to you and that the person in question gets clean
May I put out there that it may be best to care primarily for you and children in the meantime???
Peace
Van