Yea, I have read "Parenting with love and logic", Dr Phils "Family First", every ADD and parenting book in the library I can get my hands on and I am frustrated. I am really angry now due to the fact that I don't lay a hand on her yet she is angry with me. I had beatings every day (with anything they could grab) and I still never talked the way she does. I graduated with high honors. Makes you wonder. When she goes to her dads, he claims none of this happens there and he and his girlfriend have no problems with her. I still don't think its appropriate for me to bring a man into the house to replace her father with.
Let me also add that she doesn't touch her gaming system unless she has folded the laundry or scrubbed the floor on her hands and knees. When she talks like she did this morning, she gets a plug on it that needs removed with a key.