I had the same experience when I tried out patient rehab. I couldn't take being talked down to, not being taken seriously, and being talked to like a was a child. I ended up leaving the outpatient and found a path that I felt I could really integrate into my life.
I found a doctor that specializes in addiction who actually treats his patients with respect and is overall a wonderful doctor. I also go to the substance abuse counselor in his office and a psychiatrist that specializes in substance abuse. My doctor, counselor, and my psychiatrist are all in the same office and they all compare notes and work as a team. I go to my doctor once a month, the psychiatrist once a month, and I go to the counselor as many times as I feel I need but have dropped down to once or twice a month since I am at 9 months.
There is no "right" path. You need to decide what you need and then make the steps to get it.