Originally Posted by
healthyagain 
Yet tonight, I feel some emptiness. I am thinking of my ex, just feeling really bad for him. I just was not even aware how he was already so deep in alcoholism when I left. And I am glad I did leave, do not get me wrong. But there is this feeling of bitterness, thinking that we could have succeeded if only . . . but he had to be defiant and mean.
Lots of extra big hugs for you, HA. I've been having similar feelings this week. I am 100% aware that STBXAH's meltdown this week has been total quacking, but it has still triggered sadness and anger for me. I know I can't fix him, or fix his life. I no longer want to do those things, or feel the need to. But I still have a tremendous amount of compassion for his pain and his struggles, and it makes me sad and angry that alcoholism continues to chip away at his life.
I think these are normal feelings, and part of our own recoveries.
