Hi Expanding. So sorry that you are going through this . You are on your way to taking care of your own needs and getting healthy. Sounds like your ex drinking will have to progress to a much lower point before he is ready to admit he is powerless over alcohol. No doubt he will realize one day that alcohol robbed him of you. That is what alcohol does it takes and takes and takes. All the while numbing the brain with a superficial high. The person under the influence welcomes the removal of obstacles to continue their relief while drinking. I'm sure the new relationship he is in the drinking is not the source of contention YET. Sorry you are going through this. It's inevitable that alcohol will destroy alcoholic's relationships ,inside feelings and livelihood when active. Please do not think it's you are over reacting .Like someone else mentioned you were living with this everyday full time. You are more than allowed to address what's best in your relationship. You are expressing that you are worried and care about him. Nobody' can feel your feelings but you. You deserve the best and someone who wants the best for you and themselves. Prayers to you