Hi Expanding
Codependency is torture. The alcoholic is addicted to alcohol...obsessing over it all the time. The codependent is addicted to the alcoholic...obsessing over him all the time. Talk to your therapist about codependency. Work on finding yourself, discovering your values and establishing your boundaries. Take lots of time to become you. Don't worry about other people and don't take on other people's issues. It takes time but its necessary so you don't lose yourself again.