A women's meeting does sound like a good idea Eliasson.
There is also a "women only" thread here on SR. Good to talk with other women who understand.
You might also like to look at the "Friends and Family" thread where I'm sure you will be able to talk with others about the problems you are facing in your relationship.
Being economically dependent on another person is really demoralising but by becoming sober and reaching for support in the right places you will find ways that you did not think possible to extract yourself from what now seems an impossible situation.
Getting sober will give you the strength to make positive decisions about your life. You CAN be free.