Thank you all so much. This has been the challenge of my life. More than one person has said what I know is probably only the tip of the iceberg. I don't even want to know more.
I have been going to counseling but I think maybe I have been too focused on why he's doing all he's doing and not focusing enough on me going forward and being strong for my kids. I think I'm going to talk about that next week. As far as the legal aspect I will be addressing that very soon. I need my tax return for the retainer. But I have used these last months to compile statements and other documentation as necessary. I'm an attorney myself but don't practice as my current position doesn't allow outside work.
You're an incredible group of people and I'm so relieved and grateful for the responses I have received