hi and welcome, great to finally SEE you!
when addicts get some clean time under their belts, and then relapse....coming back from that relapse is harder than any time before. addiction does not let go easily.
similarly when WE come SO close to letting them go, bagging all our hopes and setting them at the curb and they come back with promises and a plan, and they seem to be doing so well, making progress, we greedily grab on tight.
so when the inevitable comes, the return to drug use, our HOPE is our addiction, and it's hard to get go.
this is where heads need to rule hearts. facts need to outpace promises.
he has been using meth again for a solid year. you and the children are living with active addiction. and it will slowly destroy you all unless you get out, get away. for that reason alone, it's time to take those steps. you know what to do. you simply need to build up your inner strength muscles and take those first steps.