Originally Posted by teatreeoil007

I don't have a lot to go on here, but almost sounds as if this/there relative (s) are trying to control you a certain extent. And, trying to control another person really boils down to power or the desire to feel a certain amount of power. It's sick when a person wants to have power over another person, really and often part of family dysfunction. When they realize they cannot control you they don't like that very well and then can resort to being passive-aggressive instead because they realize somewhere along the way they couldn't get to you otherwise. If they know your options are limited, they use that to their advantage as well. Boundaries, m'friend, boundaries. Part of true recovery is finding out where your healthy boundaries really are and/or where they should be. Active addiction clouds everything including boundaries.