TacoTruck.......he is like a blind man wandering, lost in the forest---he is in so much denial!
Even to utter the words about having a beer or two in social situations means that he is not in recovery. An alcoholic cannot moderate and cannot have the first drink..... Some can white knuckle it for periods of time....but, for an alcoholic....the disease will eventually take over....
Now, he, obviously doesn't accept the premise that he can't have any alcohol...,,because he isn't ready for real sobriety.....
The important thing is for YOU to recognize it!
You know that he is not sober.....(real sobriety means changes from the inside..not just a zero alcohol blood level).....
Be grateful that you have this new level of information about him---it can save you from a lot of pain.....
I know that you are sad...you haven't finished grieving.......
Just keep on moving on down the road.....
You will get there....
dandylion