Charlie, I remember that feeling of simply acting and buying alcohol, rather than thinking about it. It was so frustrating. I think the key is to have a firm plan and stick to it. You were annoyed and angry and you r partner went out so the opportunity was there. Can you come up with a plan to put in place the next time you feel angry? I made use of aromatherapy in the early days because surprisingly aromas like lavender can change our mindset. I would hop into the shower with lavender oil and it really helped. What would work for you?