Ouch is right!
My son is an addict and I know I have put my husband through the wringer. I have openly defied him, gone behind his back and pulled away emotionally. My pain is his pain and yes, he worries about me alot. As one of the mom's that Smoke is referring to, I have alot of baggage. My husband and I married when my son was 6. Although I know he loves me (married 21 years) I would be willing to bet that if he could go back and choose an easier path he would. Ouch! Something for me to think about.
If you take a look at how your b/f has dealt with his children up to now it would give you a pretty good idea of what to expect in your future. Good luck!
Hugs,
JT