Kata-oh yes, the loveliness. It was also a figure of speech when my ex called me a pu$$y....and all the other names he called me and his own daughter. I don't miss the "oh, lighten up....I am who I am - take it or leave it....or you're just oversensitive". Maybe you're just an abusive ass buddy! Btw, take it or leave it? Those are my options? Leave it...all day long.
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this but he may win the award for quack of the year. Hugs, friend. I don't miss the crazy and I hope you are out soon.