It was a figure of speech

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It was a figure of speech

I swear Kata, it was a figure of speech when I said I had been sleeping with other women.

Yes dear, and it's only a figure of speech when I say it would be better for you to start wearing a jock strap if you plan on crossing my path!
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Old 03-21-2016, 05:16 PM
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And I do believe the quack of the year award goes to your partner. How is that even a figure of speech?
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Old 03-21-2016, 05:17 PM
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Makes about as much sense as walking into a bank, loudly declaring "THIS IS A STICKUP!" and complaining when you get shot by the police that you were just using a figure of speech.
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Old 03-21-2016, 05:22 PM
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Yup, I think he gets the award! Honestly, The worst part is, I pretty sure he actually didn't do it. He really just wanted a reaction out of me... Which he didn't get.

But yeah, a figure of speech.
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Old 03-21-2016, 05:27 PM
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Addicts love to go for shock value/attention. I have learned that just because someone adds "just kidding" at the end doesn't make it less hurtful, less truthful, or socially okay.

I feel like society is so quick to say whatever comes to their mind for whatever twisted reason they decide to say it and personally I am trying to make sure I am not one of those people and to surround myself by people who don't behave that way.

Great job not giving a reaction however, I'm not sure I would have been able to.
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AdelineRose, at this point, I've learned that he's doing it just to hurt me, because he's hurt. It's always the same pattern. So I know what to expect.

He did get a reaction it was : oh dear, good for you.
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Old 03-21-2016, 05:38 PM
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For my ex it was...It isn't sex if you don't have intercourse with them.

And no she wasn't kidding.
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Lordy, honey, he is one special snowflake, isn't he...

It would be funny if it wasn't actual life.
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Old 03-21-2016, 05:43 PM
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Sure, we all know that it's not cheating if it's not intercourse.

I could be wrong, but the way he said it, and the tone he used were exactly on point for his "I want to hurt you mode". Had he done it, he would've shut up about it and try to make me think I was crazy for having suspicions.

At this point, I don't care if he did do it or not. He cross a boundary he shouldn't have. What little trust there was left has gone bye-bye!
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Ariesagain, you made me laugh again! I love the" one special snowflake". I'm adding it to my repertoire!

You got more like that?
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Two more for your playlist...

"Would I Lie to You?" Eurythmics

"Good-bye to You," Scandal

(Can you tell I got divorced in the 80s?
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Kata-oh yes, the loveliness. It was also a figure of speech when my ex called me a pu$$y....and all the other names he called me and his own daughter. I don't miss the "oh, lighten up....I am who I am - take it or leave it....or you're just oversensitive". Maybe you're just an abusive ass buddy! Btw, take it or leave it? Those are my options? Leave it...all day long.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this but he may win the award for quack of the year. Hugs, friend. I don't miss the crazy and I hope you are out soon.
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How about "It's the Final Countdown," singing while putting your ex (or soon to be ex, right) in a cannon?

Cant be more 80s than that, right?
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Old 03-21-2016, 06:35 PM
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Forourgirls, it's lovely isnt't it?.

He's not at the take it or leave it stage. He's a the "i understand that the trust has gone bye bye, but I know that with a real discussion it'll be all right" stage.

Yes dear, it'll be all right... Please hold your breath.
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I for some reason start singing radio heads "creep" when I read this about your lovely partner
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Translation: "If I can just get her face to face I can filibuster her into exhausted submission/convince her that up is down/charm her brains into useless goo/or if nothing else, get some booze money."

Some days I read these threads and think all of us were involved with the same guy!
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We were all involved with the same guy!! And once they realize we have them figured out they explode into nastiness even more. Just be ready, kata. You ain't seen nothing yet. Sad, but true. (And I hope I'm wrong!!)
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Old 03-21-2016, 06:51 PM
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Ariesagain, that very well be what he's thinking, but is chances of having his way are slim to none.

Never game him money for booze, ain't gonna start now.

Talk me into exhaustion or submission, well we are meeting at 9 am. A time where my brain has been awake for 3 hours and very sharp because of my Concerta. He however, will not be at his best.

Add to that that I'm stubborn, fed up, resolved at that my boundaries are clear. And well, there's now way he will accept my boundaries as they involve actions and not words, and that I that the actions must be sustained and consistent over a long period of time before he gets anything from me.
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"There's a bomb on the plane!!!!" Wait-it was just a figure of speech!
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Old 03-21-2016, 07:28 PM
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It weird, languages and words are what I do for a living, but I have to admit that I never knew that figure of speech was a synonym for "lying my a$$ off"
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