Thank you all for the welcome
Joie I started my road to recovery the day that he got arrested. I figured if I didn't step up and help myself now then I'll never do it. I see him every week, talk to him everyday, and write him letters but he is still in prison and will be out in about a year.
Ann, thank you for the recommendation on the book, I actually read it a couple months ago on the recommendation of my therapist and it was an amazing book. I just ordered the book called Boundaries by Henry Cloud (I think that is the author) have you read that one also?