emilian.....it is obvious that your husband has a variety of issues, many of which seem clustered around self-image and impulse. and while they seem a package deal, i believe there is more than one base causality going on here. and he should be in an ongoing intensive therapy to help HIM deal with HIS issues.
regardless of the labels - addict, closet homosexual, sex deviant, or whatever else - those are things HE needs to address and deal with.
you now have a CHILD to raise. and you don't need any of this ****!!! you've put in your time TRYING to help him, TRYING to make things better, and it has you worn down and confused.
to address your first question, is HIS behavior standard addict behavior? if you mean does doing drugs MAKE some one post on C/L and DESIRE to be a submissive in a same-sex scenario while their wives are pregnant, then NO. however drugs CAN definitely loosen inhibitions and allow our darker selves to want or crave the odd, different, risky, exciting or freakish. it then becomes a matter of how FAR one chooses to take things.......
do you have access to counseling for YOU? not couples therapy, not marital counseling, sex therapy, or anything else but YOU time?? i think it's time to put on your hula hoop and worry only about what is inside of it.
Last edited by DesertEyes; 03-10-2016 at 01:09 PM.
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