Liz......this is a "toughie"......but, one thing is for sure.....blended families are a challenge, it seems, for everyone.
I agree that taking it s..l..o..w is a good idea. It gives time for adjustments and formation of bonds......
I remember from one of my psychology courses on marriage and family...this subject was discussed in detail...
They made the point that axcept for very young children..less than four years
(toddlers).....that it takes about 7yrs. for a blended family to feel ready solid.....
dandylion