Hmmm, this whole music industry thing is new for me, on this thread, though my DH has been thrown into this business [sound engineer].
Ccc, the book I linked, "Look Me in the Eye" -- he was the engineer behind KISS' exploding guitars, and he was an Aspie!! Please try to look at your son's strengths, rather than his differences. It has taken me a lot to do this, but having grown up in a world of science nerds, it makes it easier. The good news in Silicon Valley is, if you're a nerd, you WILL succeed.