I have ruined many a date by drinking too much. I thought I was more charming and engaging after a few drinks. Well, I was after 3 or 4 drinks max, but 8 or 9 drinks on a first date is not very attractive to a woman I have learned.
I had to stop dating altogether. I broke almost a year sobriety after rehab when I decided to play the field. unless I find a girl who is also in recovery or understanding of my alcoholism. I have to put sobriety before everything else.