Thank you all for responding, it means a lot in because the feeling of loneliness while dealing with this is all too real. His 10 year sobriety came from him doing the 12 step program while in a sober living home and shortly after he came back from sober living we moved out of state. I agree in that this is his mistake and He needs to fix it. I'm on an emotional roller coaster as u can imagine sometimes I'm strong, at times I hate him and can't stand him and most of the time I'm still in love with him and want the old person back and be done with the AH forever, but yes I'm aware this is hardly a possibility. I will definitely keep u all posted, right now he says he's researching on his own but we'll see if that's true or not.