When I was drinking of course all of the men I knew drank. I would have had to take a stupid pill to hang out with boring people that didn't drink. I formed my whole life around drinking. If you didn't drink or the place didn't have alcohol then I wanted nothing to do with it.
In sobriety I have found the majority of the world drinks normally or not a all. For the most part the men I know really do not care if alcohol is present or not and the ones that do care likely have a drinking problem.
Your whole post is being written by your addictive voice trying to convince your rational mind that there is no life alcohol. Although the life I have now is different, it is so superior to my drinking days. I have a whole group of male friends and we do all sorts of fun sober things together.