I struggle often with Matthew 25:40 and A's.
Are they the "least" in God's eyes?
And I understand you took a vow "before God and these witnesses"...it's hard when your faith is deep to see around or over that.
As I've said here, I've been seeing someone since Feb. Very chaste. Very friendship oriented. We've done the daily "Purpose Driven Life" together, we go to church together, we have bible studies together. He once gave me a list of verses from Proverbs that he felt represented the traits of a "good man". I'll share that list here with you: Proverbs 20:1; 23:20-21, 29-35; 31:3-9, 14:29; 16:32; 17:27; 29:11, 12:18; 15:1-2,4. Do these thing describe your other half?
I have no idea what's best for you. I suspect if you give it to God (HP), an answer may come. Attend al-anon. Check your church, many have biblical based recovery programs. Seek answers and ye shall find.
(((Faithchaser)))