Thank you, And you are right. I know I can never fully understand. I have my own addictions in other kinds of ways and my own issues just like we all do, but they're not that strong, or dangerous. I have not been through what he is going through. And I know he has to do the work on his own, I just need to figure out how I am supposed to treat him and act around him in the meantime. If I choose to stay with him and support him while he works on this, I need to figure out how to go about that while working on myself too. For example, what do I do when I know he is lying to me? Because I confronted him about it last night and that went very badly. So do I just ignore it and keep working on me? Will this possibly help him want to get help because he sees me doing it? I know nobody can tell me the answers to this stuff, these are just the questions that I have right now