For more than 10 years I practically drank myself to death in front of my family. My wife (who is a licensed clinical therapist) barely said a word.
She knew I was struggling badly. She knew that I was "circling the drain" - but yet she said nothing.
She also knew that the only person who was going to change me - was me.
If there was an outside switch or fuse - she would have helped me - but she knew that battling addiction is an inside job....and I am the most headstrong SOB on the planet (with or without alcohol).
Well, I found the switch and I'm almost 12 weeks sober now. There is no looking back.
It looks like you have found your "switch" too! Congratulations!
It would be nice if our family and friends were perfectly supportive - but they will rarely understand what we are going through. Sometimes the best they can do is to not aggravate us and get in the way of our recovery.
Hope this helps.