Please believe Every. Word. He. Says. I didn't and ended up marrying the man. 9 years later I finally believed him and we divorced amicably. I missed my childbearing years because of my choices (but thank God didn't have his children). He is doing you the most loving thing he can for you - telling you his truths. 25 years later my -ex is the exact same person... never remarried, still drinking, still depressed and medicated for it. We still care for each other, but I am happily remarried and now realize I DID deserve better.