Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
I am sure I sound like a moron to admit this but he owes me THOUSANDS (in the tens of thousands) in arrears for child support and Im so desperate to not anger and upset him and incur his wrath that I have just let it go... I could ask the court to garnish his wages etc... but I know that any pittance I get from him he will make me pay in any number of other ways...
I feel like a MORON for letting him bully me over every issue and it's no wonder he continues to do so-- clearly Im allowing it...
I thought if I just let EVERYTHING other than the kids safety go he would finally get tired of fighting me and would leave me and the kids be...
It's like he won't be happy until he has broken me completely and Im just about there...
You are strong!!!!! You will not be broken!!!!!!
You are dealing with an abusive bully. Good thing is, you aren't married to him anymore.
Take your power back.
I think I read that he has not been seeing the kids on his weekends. That's a good thing. I hope you are keeping journals on this or whatever, if it is that court website thing you go to.
It does take us awhile to work on our on behalf. You have many people here to talk to. We'll help you.
Lean on us till you can walk alone.
I think right now, you can't send him an email like I sent my ex, because there is a court date. Prepare for that. Don't worry about your JADE responses to this. Concentrate on incriminating evidence against him.
If your "craziness" comes up, document that with therapist reports about how you can't deal with him.
Just know that we are here for you, and before you ever respond to him again with anything, run it by us.
((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
amy