BJ,
I am so sorry. Watching a child die is something no-one should have to endure. But your cousin has no choice, so be there.
If you have a chance, read MIRRecovery's posts about losing his beloved daughter to cancer sober.
Very moving and inspirational. Amazing man.
Honour yourself and her by doing this sober.
And isn't the AV just a total **** to try and use this tragedy to destroy another life?
You can't let an ******* like that win.
Kick it to the curb.
Be there for your cousin and her daughter.
Lean on us.