Originally Posted by
lisatryingagain 
I went to an event last night and I drank. I had two glasses. I knew I would. It was an event I felt I had to go to, fully knowing that it would stir up very painful feelings for me.
Truthfully I don't feel guilty that I drank last night. Which makes me wonder maybe I shouldn't be on here. I know my life is better without alcohol, but I am not beating myself up at all about last night.
I am going to see a dr next Wednesday to get a referral for a psychologist who specialises in PTSD. I got the verbal recommendation for this psychologist over a year ago, and haven't acted on it. I am afraid I will have to go into all that horrible **** from the past and not actually come out the other side feeling better about it.
I could have reached out here for support in the days leading up to the event last night, as I knew a few days ago I would probably drink there. But I chose not to, not wanting to have to think about the whys of why I would have a drink there. Its just very painful.
I am very proud of all of you who are staying strong and choosing to face things without booze. Be very proud of yourselves also.
The fact that you posted this here means to me that you think you belong here.
Sobriety doesn't seem like a straight-up rocket-shoot to me -- it's not like they do the countdown and send you off and there, everything's fixed.
A couple of weeks ago I was in the chat meeting on Friday night and the topic was
persistence. We each need to remember that word. Just because we faltered doesn't mean we should throw in the towel,
any more than stubbing our toe means we should stop the hike.
Persistence. Internal discipline, motivation, and the refusal to accept what has been heretofore the norm.
You should be here. And you should yourself be proud of being here. Take a hand up, get back on your feet, and let's walk a little more.
Originally Posted by
Nic233 Hey lovelies,
I'm going ok- already stressing about a family function I have to attend next weekend. Definitely don't feel strong enough to be around a bunch of drunk people but my Aunty and uncle are over from the uk so have little choice.
It's really worrying me how to handle it and can't even think of any plans to put in place. Mum knows I'm not drinking(it's at her place) She even offered not to drink either - which will solve nothing lol
Any suggestions? I'm known as the one who loves her drink- me saying his time that I'm not drinking as I'm trying to lose weight will not cut it.
It's going to be an Aussie all afternoon BBQ affair
Hiya Nic, if I were in your shoes I'd simply say, "no thanks, I've decided to stop drinking" and if any awkward questions get asked, tell the person that you'll be happy to discuss it at another, more appropriate time.