JL, great job dumping that drink. I’m sorry life is so demanding right now, it will get better, trust me. At 53, I’ve been through all the ups and downs of marriage, relationships, children, family, deaths, marriages, divorces, and suicide. As hard as it feels right now, for you and your wife, time will heal and you will move forward. Now is the time for you to take care of yourself, so that you will be there for your family when they need you to lean on. Drinking just isn’t an option any longer.
I think it is wonderful that you noticed the nice things your son is doing to try and cheer up your wife. They will notice the things that you do too. Stay strong JL, you have a great family, something you should be proud of!