I've said this many times - when I got sober I was a mess.
If I had started a relationship any sooner than I did I would have been inflicting myself on someone.
I'd never been comfortable in my own skin. I was always looking for people to 'fix' me, 'complete' me, or 'fill' me and my void.
That's a recipe for disaster.
I got sober, I got comfortable in my own skin. I lost the desperateness I used to have with finding a partner.
As it was it was lucky my partner was patient and grounded because I was still a mess in many ways for quite a while.
We have the rest of our lives to do what ever we want. Spend a little of that time on yourself ecm
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