I am just wondering if you have been able to communicate to him directly what your needs are; what your needs have been that haven't been met; and how hurt from the past still has a hold and hasn't been healed yet?
Sometimes there needs to be adequate healing from former hurts before a person is able to open their self up again..part of that may be because of the fear of just getting hurt AGAIN and part of that could be RESIDUAL pain from before. Who wants to expose their self to more hurt? No one in their right mind, I'm thinking...How to heal from former hurts?It takes a lot of work.
Is he at all in touch with why/how you were hurt? If not, it's time for a come to Jesus talk and he will either get it or not.