Originally Posted by
Hawkeye13 
I think if we are talking about 100 dollars a week, if she is willing
and asks you for help, I would consider giving her (not loaning)
the first full month to let her get back on her feet and get a job.
Getting her out of the house is the priority, right?
Offering an incentive might help, and a disincentive of
you telling her you'll be filing for divorce if she insists
on coming home may be needed.
I don't mean to sound cold, but I think the kids don't need to be
around a volatile recovering addict.
They need a safe, peaceful space and a focused parent.
Her in the house would make all of that impossible.
Use the carrot, but be ready with stick--
A sober house is a great step for someone in early recovery.
I see it as a win-win. What do you think FM and others?
I definitely agree! It wouldn't be easy for me to work something like that into our budget, but it could be doable for a month at least. I think Dandylion mentioned that they sometimes have programs or financial help for people in her situation, so hopefully the caseworker at the center can help her figure some of that out as well. I agree with another poster (I can't remember who right now!) who suggested waiting to see if she asks instead of trying to figure out the solution for her. But I think you are right, I will be prepared to help out if she needs it, because having her come right home would just be disastrous for her recovery, my recovery, and my kids' peace.