I think if we are talking about 100 dollars a week, if she is willing
and asks you for help, I would consider giving her (not loaning)
the first full month to let her get back on her feet and get a job.
Getting her out of the house is the priority, right?
Offering an incentive might help, and a disincentive of
you telling her you'll be filing for divorce if she insists
on coming home may be needed.
I don't mean to sound cold, but I think the kids don't need to be
around a volatile recovering addict.
They need a safe, peaceful space and a focused parent.
Her in the house would make all of that impossible.
Use the carrot, but be ready with stick--
A sober house is a great step for someone in early recovery.
I see it as a win-win. What do you think FM and others?