findingme26.....just for the record....have you consulted an attorney to find out your (and her) legal rights in this situation...?
If not---just having the information in the back of your head can give you a degree of confidence....
there is a good website for this sort of information...."WomansDivorce.com".
This is not a substitute for your own lawyer, of course....But, is very educational....and, it is broken down by states......
It is true...you can't just kick out a wife without following legal channels.....
(there are also legal issues concerning the children---depending on the particular situation).....
(I am not a lawyer....but, I have been around the block a time or two...)
dandylion