Sugarbear I have been attending Alanon for about 6 months. In the past few weeks I've started going at least 5 days a week at night because nighttimes are my most difficult "witching hour" in my head. But I have not started the steps as I haven't found anyone yet that I'd like to have as a sponsor. Is that the missing piece to this whole puzzle? I do believe the steps are an integral part of my recovery, but I don't see how without them I still feel like my heart isn't getting the message it needs to get.