Originally Posted by
mamaof3boyz 
He's always been controlling, jealous, insecure...so I guess it makes him feel better about himself when he can convince me to do things his,way
... and the fact that he's still trying means he hasn't begun attacking the root problem, the absence of serenity.
I say that not in judgment, but because I know how difficult it has been, and sometimes still is, for me, a recent beginner on the road of recovery.
Don't cede control over to him. Do what is right for you.