He's suggested we go to counselling. A) for his issues and B) for my nagging and trust issues.
We had a thread on this subject over in F&F of Alcoholics not too long ago. Good article and discussion on what "working on issues" really means in a situation like this.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ut-i-dont.html
There's also a really good book called "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft that explains the dynamic more in depth. I didn't read it until after I left my ex, but it was an eye-opener all the same.
Hugs to you and your kids. It sounds like your husband is still in active addiction and just looking for ways to deflect blame and distract from his behavior. I think that "counseling" is just another delay tactic because he's not ready to quit using. What you know about is probably just the tip of the iceberg.